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Sunday, May 17, 2015

2015 Hop Against Homophobia, Bi- and Transphobia

Welcome to the Hop Against Homophobia, Bi- and Transphobia!

Welcome! The blog hop the focus is on transphobia. Thanks for stopping by! 

After reading the blog, leave a comment (must include e-mail address) between 5/17 and 5/24 and be entered into a drawing to win your choice of one of the following ebooks: 

Curiosity Killed Shaney
Dare To Love Forever 
Diventando: The Vessel


What causes transphobia?
Lack of information and stereotypes portrayed by the media. The most proactive thing you can do about transphobia is to arm yourself with information and educate others.

Nearly one million adults in the US identity of transgender.

According to a recent Pew poll, 90% of Americans say they personally know someone who is lesbian, gay, or bisexual. However only 8% of Americans say they personally know someone who is transgender.

The National Transgender Discrimination Survey, the largest study of transgender people’s experiences, found that 41 percent of transgender and gender non-conforming people have attempted suicide, a rate far higher than the national average of 4.6 percent.

What does transgender mean? Transgender is a term for people whose gender identity differs from what is typically associated with the sex they were assigned at birth. For transgender people, the sex they were assigned at birth and their own internal gender identity do not match.

What’s the difference between sex and gender?
Sex refers to the designation of a person at birth as either "male" or "female" based on their anatomy (e.g. reproductive organs) and/or their biology (e.g. hormones).

Gender refers to the traditional or stereotypical roles, behaviors, activities and attributes that a given society consider appropriate for men and women.

Gender identity is someone's internal, personal sense of being a man or a woman.

Keep in mind that gender identity is not sexual orientation. Sexual orientation refers to whom you are attracted, so trans people can be gay, bisexual, straight, asexual, pansexual, etc., just like cisgender individuals.

What is Gender Identity Disorder?

Gender identity disorder is a condition in which a male or female feels a strong identification with the opposite sex.

Gender Dysphoria is an intense, psychologically painful and anxiety laden state which can intensify over time to the point of being intolerable.  Gender is our first and most intimate identity, and to have that be wrong in some way is deeply disturbing.  I have had many people say some form of:  “there is no choice, it’s either this or I kill myself”.  Furthermore, transitioning is a process of becoming who one authentically is.” — Ami B. Kaplan, LCSW

Does everyone who is transgender “transition” physically?

Many transgender people seek to bring their bodies more into alignment with their gender identity. While some Transgender people may alter their bodies with hormones and/or surgery, many do not.

Medical procedures don’t define someone as transgender. The gender they identify with in their minds does.

What is the correct way to refer to someone who is transgender?

Remember: Transgender is not a noun but an adjective. And transgender never needs an "-ed" at the end.

Incorrect: “Jake is a transgender."

Correct: Jake is a transgender person."

What is the difference between “coming out” lesbian, gay or bi and “coming out” transgender?

"Coming out" to other people as lesbian, gay, or bisexual is typically seen as revealing a "truth" that allows others to know your authentic self. The LGB community places great importance and value on the idea of being "out" in order to be happy and whole.

When a transgender person has transitioned and is living as their authentic gender - that is their "truth." The world is now seeing them as their true selves. Unfortunately, a person is transgender may no longer be seen as a "real" man or woman - and it can feel disempowering for a transgender person to have that experience.

A transgender person does not need to be "out" to everyone in order to feel happy and whole.

What do the initials FTM and MTF stand for?

FTM stands for female-to-male and refers to someone who was designated female at birth but identifies and expresses himself as a man. Many FTM transgender people prefer the term "trans man" to describe themselves.

MTF stands for male-to-female and refers to someone who was designated male at birth but who identifies and expresses herself as a woman. Many MTF transgender people prefer the term "trans woman" to describe themselves.

How do I know which pronouns to use?

Transgender people should be identified with their preferred pronoun. Often this is the pronoun that corresponds to the gender with which they identify. Not sure? It’s appropriate to respectfully ask their name and which pronouns they’d prefer. Some transgender people do not believe in a gender binary and prefer not to use pronouns typically associated with men (e.g. him) and women (e.g. her). Instead, they would prefer if people simply used their names or used a non-gendered pronoun such as “hir” or “they.”

To visit other blogs following the hop click on the links below!

Transgender Resources

Saturday, April 11, 2015

Where will I be April 18th?? At the NYC Rainbow Book Fair!

If you are near the NYC area and want to meet me (and other great M/M authors), this is where I will be on April 18th! There will be tons of exhibitors/authors from the LGBT community. 

This is also my first author event and I'm very excited! Oh, and I will also be at Rainbow Con in July!

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

Join me for my author chat 4/11 and win prizes!!

This Saturday, April 11th,  I will be taking part in the Rainbow Gold's LGBT BLOG Anniversary, Awards & Anthology Release!

Join in the fun, meet authors and win prizes! 

At 2 pm EDT, I have some fun planned with my author chat! I will have some interesting question/games where you can will copies of my eBooks! 

Don't be square and be there! 

Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Welcome to the blog Rain Carrington with her new release Big Bad Mooney!

Blurb: Lin Mooney, a man that has always been in control of his own life, suddenly finds himself at the mercy of not one man but two. Joey Pino comes back to Manacle, beaten and in need, and Lin wants to be the person he turns to. That is except for the fact Lin’s already hopelessly in love with another man, The British beauty, Andy White. These much younger and smaller men have him by the heartstrings and he can no longer deny his feelings, despite his imperfect health and age. He wants them both more than he’s ever wanted anything. Brandon is out to prove a point and Sidney goes along, blindly following his Master until he can’t do it anymore. Can bringing another man into their bedroom make them stronger as a couple or tear them apart? Five men contemplate the question…How many in a life or a bedroom is too much? Love is tested again in this, the fifth book of the Apishipa Creek Chronicles, and the end will leave you breathless and ready to scream. One of the men of Apishipa Creek is on his way to the most important day of his life when tragedy strikes.

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Author Bio

Hi I'm Rain and I write contemporary M/M romance some with a BDSM slant. My book Honky Tonk, is the first I am publishing but not the first I've written. I have a whole library full that are about to be rewritten and revamped a bit and published as well. Please enjoy my books and let me know what you think! Rain Carrington Author Web Page Amazon Author Page Rain Carrington Goodreads Books in this series

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